I’ve always wondered why some guys like to be called “Daddy” during sex. (Hell, sometimes sex isn’t even necessary…think Big Daddy Kane, Puff Daddy, Usher’s song “Hey Daddy”…) It’s everywhere, and honestly, it weirds me out. I mean, some of these guys have kids and hear “Daddy” all day, which I’m sure annoys the hell out of them rather than turning them on. And I’m not talking about those into the family fantasy taboo porn; no, I’m talking about regular everyday guys. So what is it about a woman screaming out “Yes, Daddy!” or “Fuck me harder, Daddy” during sex that turns these guys on? Naturally I can’t answer this question (I totally could, but it would be completely biased and militant feminist and a 100% correct analysis of the male ego from a psychological standpoint because I’m a lesbian and ripping dudes for anything I don’t agree with runs in my blood. Plus my Women Studies 104 professor has my back.), so I took to the diverse streets of Philadelphia to ask around and gain perspective.
Besides the puzzling looks, and the one instance where a guy ran from me (pretty sure he was high on something), I got some really good feedback and engaged in in-depth conversations. After everyone got past the “I don’t know, that shit just turns me on” response and actually started to think about why it turns them, on I got a few interesting responses. Predictably, the most common response I got was “when a woman calls you daddy, you know you’re putting shit down!” But why? Why is this indication that the sex is good? It’s not like women store that word away for those occasions when the dick is amazing, because everyone doesn’t do it. Apparently, that’s exactly the point in this case. Guys who identified with this answer didn’t want their girlfriends or wives calling them daddy regularly. In fact, a lot of them never even requested that she do it during sex, it just happened a few times, and the turn on comes from the fact that she said it on her own so the pipe-laying game must be strong. I can understand this. It’s like when a girl yells out your name during sex and she usually doesn’t. You must be doing something right! I still think the word choice is strange, but I get how that could be a major ego boost.
There was one guy who right off the bat told me it was about power for him, straight up. There was no further analysis needed in his mind. Men are supposed to provide for their women as he sees it, and when you only look at it from that angle, the relationship offers some of the same things father-daughter relationships offer, like protection, encouragement, and support. Of course, they aren’t parallel, but when his wife calls him daddy, it’s an acknowledgement of his position of power in their relationship and nothing gets a penis pumping like power, right!? He further explained to me that it was such a huge and positive part of their sex life that it spilled over into their regular every day interaction with each other and now she calls him “daddy” like someone might say “honey” or “babe.” When I asked if he calls her “mommy” he looked at me like I was crazy, but laughingly admitted he has called her “big momma” during a few birthday blowjobs over the years.
Innocence also came up more than a few times and I was surprised by how willingly dudes were to reveal that they like the fantasy of fucking a young, innocent chick. I get that youth is attractive to most of us, but why does the innocence turn on come from the word “daddy?” Fathers usually think their daughters are innocent until they’re forced to either accept or deny the truth, but does that turn you on? Does your brain even compute that correlation when you’re hitting it doggy style and counting strokes and she says “right there, daddy”? Asking these questions got me a lot of head-tilted confused looks but I did get one answer that stuck out. I’m not sure how much honesty was behind it, but one pretty young guy said he likes good girls and that projected innocence, even if it is just fantasy, makes him feel like he’s with a good un-corrupted person.
I had fun with my daddy interrogation experiment. I still think it’s creepy as hell, but I learned a few things and met some really cool and open people. If you’re one of those guys who likes knowing you’re putting it down by being called “daddy” then have at it! And if you’re a lady reading this who might want to try something different, give it a shot and see what happens. It’s safe to say I won’t be calling anyone other than my pop “daddy” anytime soon, and I only pull that out when I want something (the exact same answer I got from a woman who gives daddy affirmation from time to time), but I won’t judge you if you do. Until next time, freaky people!